How Body Confidence Turns Into Body Shaming

Happy hump day lovelies! I thought today I’d chat with you about a more serious topic that so many people, particularly women, can relate to- body confidence. If you’re hoping that this is going to be a “ra-ra love ourselves” post, it really won’t be. Not that I don’t appreciate those posts because I do! Feeling good about yourself is important to personal happiness. However, I’ve come to notice that body confidence has it’s own asterisks attached to it.

The other day, I was scrolling through my newsfeed when I came across a story about a personal trainer who had a baby and somehow still managed to get her six-pack abs back only a few weeks after having her baby. You would think that people would either want to know how she did or just keep scrolling, but no. Commenters jumped straight to body shaming her for her post-baby photos and saying that she’s a self-centered mom if she has time to work out. One person went so far as to say that women who are good moms don’t look like that. Ouch.

We often think of body shaming as only being geared towards people who are overweight. However, we leave out the people who are on the opposite end of that spectrum. What good is a message about loving ourselves and our bodies if it only applies to some people and not to others? Some people are built differently, have different metabolisms, and different athletic abilities. That’s ok. And being happy with how you look and even proud of it is such an important part of body confidence.

On the other side of the issue, is the push to love how you look even if you aren’t happy with it. Take me for example, I know I’m in the correct height-weight range for my age, but my pant size went up a little from last year and it’s driving me crazy. Should I shame myself for the weight gain? No, but there’s nothing wrong with wanting to fit back into the jeans I wore last fall either because they gave me confidence! Feeling good is part of looking good. Encouraging friends who want to feel good is part of sharing body confidence with others!

Next time you see a social media post from someone who is body confident, don’t shame or judge them for that confidence no matter how thin or big they are or what circumstances surround them. Women who really believe in body confidence, don’t do that to each other.

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Cringe-Worthy Instagram Posts

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Happy Thursday lovelies! Only a few days until the weekend and I know you can make it! Today, I get to work from home and that certainly puts a smile on my face. Nothing is better than being in your pajamas researching statistics for your boss’ paper. That’s a lie. Shopping for shoes is better but this is a close second.

In an effort to make sure you have a good day too, I thought I’d write something all of us can hopefully relate to: cringe-worthy Instagram posts. We’ve all seen them and they confuse and bother us every single time.

Let’s begin with an obvious one- the trying to sell you something post. Typically this involves one of those body wraps and features a before and after picture along with a crazy amount of emojis in the caption. I call this cringe-worthy because it just sneaks up on you when you’re scrolling. A before picture of someone’s saggy stomach is kind of a shock when everything else is just a picture of a Starbucks coffee cup.

Another awful one is the people that comment with “f4f?” or “follow for follow?” on your photos. If you’re commenting with that, chances are I simply won’t want to follow you anyway because you post dimly lit photos of your dinner every night.

Last but not least, are the people that are posting pictures of those body wraps and then in their bios calling themselves “business owners” or “girl bosses.” Am I being harsh? Possibly, but it just makes me squint my eyes and wonder since when did being part of an affiliate program equal being a business owner?

Growing up my mom and all of her friends did the Mary Kay or Pampered Chef thing. It was just to make an extra few bucks here and there (while guilting their friends into buying crap) but I don’t recall them being “business owners.” It just makes me cringe.

I write all this because we can all find a bit of truth in there and it makes us laugh. Leave a comment with your cringe-worthy Instagram posts!

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Bloggers Gonna Blog

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Monday mornings are good for two things: Catching up on favorite blogs and drinking copious amounts of coffee. I’ve perfected the art of both. I have more coffee mugs than Lorelai Gilmore and follow too many blogs. The funny thing about blogging, especially fashion/lifestyle blogging, is how superficial it can be. Little fashion blogs like mine and yours aren’t usually guilty of this; but big-name blogs have a running track record of it. This brings me to the 8 biggest lies top fashion bloggers tell their readers.

  1. Life is a never-ending latte:  In every single Instagram photo, in every pretty picture of their desk, and almost every snapshot of their “candid” strolls through a park, fashion bloggers always have coffee. And it must be carried in either a Starbucks cup (#littlegreenstraw) or a Kate Spade travel mug. Take your pick.
  2. We wake up with lipstick on: I’ve seen countless blog posts about “morning routines” and how fashion bloggers put their makeup on. The kicker is that no one wakes up with makeup on and if they do, their skin must really hate them because chances are it was a rough one the night before.
  3. Trips to the market are a must: Saturday mornings are meant for picking up fresh fruits and veggies at the farmer’s market and then arranging them in a chic little bowl on the (marble) kitchen counter at home. Obviously. The majority of us run to the grocery store for our food needs. However, fashion bloggers shop in more stylish, organic places.
  4. Brunch is a way of life: If they aren’t hosting a dinner party, they’re meeting a “blogging bestie” for a brunch full of fresh fruit and mimosas. The brunch is spent hashtagging and cropping the perfect Instagram photo of their drinks and yummy food. Excuse me while I go back to my Cinnamon Toast Crunch and orange juice.
  5. Pretty cars come with the territory: Because it’s totally normal to be 25 and driving a Mercedes Benz. Except it’s not. I’d take one if it were given to me, but at 22 years young, I don’t see that happening anytime soon.
  6. The bag makes the woman: Prada is a necessity and red-bottomed shoes come with the territory. And they’ll link both below the photos they post on their blog so they can make sure to get the commission from Nordstrom in case you decide to buy anything.
  7. Jet-setting is a weekend thing: A little trip to Bermuda one weekend and then exploring NYC the next is part of the fashion blogger’s life. Either said fashion blogger pay for it themselves or there’s an event that the blogger is invited to that includes an all-expense paid trip. Hopping from vacation to vacation is just a part of life.
  8. We love to team-up: I’ve seen the phrase “I teamed up with so and so…” far too many times and know that it’s code for “I’m being paid to feature this product on my blog.” Everyone needs a paycheck, but it makes you wonder if they really like the product or not.

What do you think of the fashion blogging world? Leave me a comment!

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Tres Chic for the Weekend

Happy Friday loves! I’m so glad the weekend is finally here so we can all stay inside and bundle up with our pjs on. Or you can go out and enjoy good weather if you’re lucky enough to be in a climate with it! It’s a bit chilly where I am and there’s nothing I’d love more than some California sunshine. An afternoon on the Santa Monica pier sounds divine at the moment!
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For those of you who plan on venturing outside in warm weather I suggest including “winter tones” in your style choices. Bold red and black speaks volumes on any lady while an animal print adds interest and incorporates the fur we all love to see and wear. By no means do I expect any of us to be able to afford Bvlgari or Prada, but there are many retailers, such as Target or even H&M that have similar items at half the price. The crazy thing about designer labels is that you’re paying for the name and slightly better quality than what you might find in Forever 21. I’ll pay for quality but I don’t like to pay for a name. Shop around and find great options similar to the ones you see above and recreate this look for less.

The Dress

Speaking of clothing, have any of you seen “the dress” everyone’s Facebook and Twitter feeds are blowing up with? The debate is whether it’s blue and black or white and gold. I thought this would be simple to solve by looking at it but apparently there’s an optical phenomenon going on and not everyone sees the same thing. Regardless, I want to draw attention to how silly things like this somehow make much bigger news than say, all the religious minority women that are being kidnapped and sold at markets by ISIL (don’t believe it, then read for yourself). How on Earth are we as a culture and society more interested in a dress than we are the well-being of women in another country? True, we can’t personally do much about it, but we can give our time in drawing attention to this horrifying act. It’s something to think about. 

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#Throwbackthursday and Golden Gifts to Give

Happy #throwbackthursday! In honor of this weekly social media event, here’s an awkward photo of me as a child holding a chicken with one of my besties, Jessica (we’re still tight even now!)

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Now for something that you can’t laugh hysterically at- gift giving. For the chic ladies in your life (or even yourself), I’ve found 7 gifts that are golden and worthy of giving. I don’t mean to drop Christmas on you right now but let’s face it, it’s coming fast! Starbucks has their seasonal menu and signature red cups in stock, the stores are literally decking the halls, commercials mention their great sales for the holidays, and Hallmark is now playing their Christmas movies again. So yes, the season of madness and magic has begun.

  1. gold_decor‘Hello Sunshine’ Ashley Brooke Designs mug- $23
  2. Gold mosaic vase at Pier 1 Imports– $49
  3. Miss Dior Eau de Parfum at Sephora– $70
  4. ‘Return to Tiffany & Co’ 18k gold earrings (cheaper bought in silver) at Tiffany’s– $550
  5. Paint Brush Thank You Cards at Kate Spade– $20
  6. Mariposa Swirled Champagne Flute at Barney’s Warehouse– $35
  7. Pave Watch at Kate Spade– $225

I realize that some of this is quite expensive but it was so pretty I couldn’t help but include it! In the past though, I have found some of the best, unique gifts at TJ Maxx or Marshall’s. I don’t mind shopping at the mall and finding gifts there as well but I’m a college student, paying full price isn’t my favorite thing to do.

Hopefully, this gave you all some ideas for the Christmas season! Feel free to pin this image to use later or to share with your followers!

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