Dealing with a Long-Distance Relationship

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The hardest thing about a long distance relationship is not being able to share in the big and little moments of everyday life. When you want to go out at night or need someone to help you take the grocery bags into the kitchen, they aren’t there. Learning to deal with the distance is a process that doesn’t happen overnight. Here are the biggest things I’ve learned so far.

  • Communicate everything. Talking about even the small things builds trust and allows the other person to be apart of your life in little ways
  • Use Skype on a weekly basis. Seeing a person, even through a camera, makes the relationship seem more “in person” as opposed to just texts and calls
  • Compliment each other often. Because a lot of long-distance-communication is verbal, you miss out on being able to give nonverbal cues indicating your attraction to the other person.
  • Send letters. Yeah, old school stuff I know. It honestly, makes a huge difference being able to hold something tangible from the other person.
  • Know when the next visit is. Having a date on the calendar for the next time you’ll see each other gives you both something to look forward to and is a great reminder that separation doesn’t last forever.
  • Send pictures throughout the day. Similar to Skyping, it makes them seem more apart of your daily life.

Comment below with your personal stories and tips to share!

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A Date in Williamsburg

Hello lovelies! I’ve been so busy lately and traveling a lot. Last week, I went to Colonial Williamsburg with someone special (winky face)! It was a long, hot day of walking around and sight seeing. I didn’t even bother to wear any makeup beyond mascara and a little concealer to take the look of death away from my under-eye circles.

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We started the day by checking out the little shops and boutiques in downtown Williamsburg. I adore local cheese shops and gourmet grocers. There’s just something so exciting about exploring the food selection of another town. It’s the classic case of the “grass is always greener”. After trying local yummies, we went in a little store called Ocean Palms. To my surprise, it was a Lilly Pulitzer store! I ended up finding a skirt I wanted half off. I can’t wait to do a post on it, you will fall in love!

After this, we went down the Duke of Gloucester street, taking in the pretty little buildings and reading up on historical happenings. We even got ourselves in a few mock stalks for a picture. As I said, it was very hot and we went through water like crazy. To keep cool, we ducked into little colonial shops and explored the period items they had for sale. I found some lavender soap that smelled divine. I had to stop myself from buying it though, bars of soap just make my skin itchy!

For a short break from the heat, we went to some shopping outlets and I found a Ralph Lauren shirt for half off and my beau bought me J Crew shorts! After our shopping, we went back to downtown Williamsburg and had dinner in a really nice restaurant called Shields Tavern. Everything from the food to the waiters were themed around the time of the Revolutionary War.

Our final adventure before going home was a ghost tour of Colonial Williamsburg. Spooks and Legends did our tour and it was really incredible! The tour started at 9pm with a tour guide dressed in colonial clothing. Each location we stopped at had it’s own ghost stories and freaky haunts. It honestly gave me goose bumps at times. The tour lasted an hour or so and I took pictures hoping to see something in one of the windows. No such luck.

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By the time we got home we were both exhausted. We had many laughs and cute moments, but I think we were both thrilled to crash and go to sleep. Long days require long rests. I’m still recovering.

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Running Shoes Weren’t Made for This

under_armor_pink_shoesRemember those new Under Armor running shoes I talked about? Well, I still haven’t used them much at the gym and they aren’t really broken in yet. However, I like many ladies, have learned to use my running shoes for an unintended purpose: chasing after a guy. I bought these shoes at Dick’s Sporting Goods, not on the eHarmony website, and yet I seem to be metaphorically using them for the wrong thing! Smart one, Liz.

I don’t think I’m the only girl who is misusing her running shoes though. The more I talk to girls from all over the country (and even the world), they all seem to be doing this too. The question is why? Why do girls put themselves through this? I don’t know the answer honestly. I can speculate that maybe it’s because we know that the guys we’re interested in won’t bother to try and chase us down. It could also be because guys know that women will come to them, thus eliminating the notion that they have to put a little effort in too. It’s anyone’s guess though.

The point is that girls are feeling like if they don’t do the “chasing”, then the guys they’re interested in won’t be bothered with them and might even move on to another girl who IS trying to snag him. Curiously enough, relationships where only one party is trying to make it work typically don’t last too long. It has to be a mutual effort. The romance and all that jazz is only worth it when both people are willing to give 100% to it. Otherwise, it’s one person doing all the work and one person enjoying the benefits.

I’m personally vowing not to be a “chaser” anymore. It’s one thing to be a little flirty while illustrating one’s interest in the guy, but it is quite another to be doing all the leg work in getting his attention and admiration. Ladies, I challenge you to make this vow too! We are beautiful, smart women that want men who see our value and know that not pursuing us would be a grave mistake. Simply put, let’s not sell ourselves short.

A girl doesn’t need anyone that doesn’t need her.

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Valentine’s Day Dreaming!

valentines_dayHappy Friday! Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day and I’m happy the day dedicated to pink and red pretty things is finally here! I love watching the guys run into the card stores and pick up their sweet little notes and then dash off to the market to get chocolates and roses. It’s so cute! Gestures like these are what make relationships worth all the times you’d like to give your significant other an earful.

Almost every girl has romantic day dreams about Valentine’s Day and I am no exception to this. Some people like to make a big deal out of it and others don’t. Unfortunately for every man that ever comes into my life, I like to make a big deal out of this holiday. From cute cupcakes and construction paper hearts taped on the windows to the Valentine’s parties at little kids’ schools, I love it all! The romantic aspect of the day is something I’m not all too familiar with though. My dad thought the day was made up by Hallmark (possibly true) and my mom is just a little too practical to enjoy it. In my short little life, I haven’t had a Valentine’s Day that I’d really remember. Each time this day has rolled around I’ve either been too far away from said man in my life or just plain single. Either way, I’ve dreamed up my perfect Valentine’s Day and I’m sharing it with you!

pink_rosesIdeally, it would be in one of these locations: King Street in Charleston, Winter Park in Orlando, State Street in Santa Barbara, or Georgetown in Washington, DC. What can I say? I’m very specific in how I day dream! First and foremost, every Valentine’s Day must start with a cup of coffee. Skinny Vanilla Latte to be exact. While enjoying my latte, a relaxing walk through the local outdoor market would be absolutely lovely! While we’re there I’d want to pick up a few things for a picnic lunch like fruit, cheese, deli meat, french bread, and a light wine. Hopefully when I’m not looking, said man in my life would surprise me with pink roses! I love flowers but roses, peonies, and hydrangeas are my favorites!

After the market, we’d find a sunny spot to eat lunch in and just watch the clouds go by. He’d break out his guitar and serenade me with an old Frank Sinatra song. Just kidding. That’s too corny even for me. Instead, we’d just walk down the street window shopping. I’d walk by a Kate Spade store and he’d either convince me I don’t need whatever it is I want or he’d let me go in and get me the adorable purse I’ve been wanting (ha, that’s really day dreaming!)

After this, we’d go home and binge watch a tv show of some sort while eating my very favorite chocolate covered strawberries. I really prefer these to a box of chocolates from Russell Stover. Nothing says “stomach ache” like a 6 month old box of chocolate. But it’s the thought that counts, right?

Later in the evening, we’d find a good place to get dinner and then go dancing either out on the town or back at home. In this case, Frank Sinatra classics would be totally appropriate. What girl doesn’t want to slow dance with her man? The perfect kiss, complete with a dip would then ensue! How’s that for the perfect Valentine’s Day?

Even though there’s no such thing as perfect anything, the best part about life is that we get to dream and hope! Prince Charming may only exist in Disney World but I’m willing to bet there are a few guys in the world that come pretty close. Find these men girls, and appreciate them because they come a dime a dozen as my grandma would say. Regardless of your relationship status right now, there’s a man out there that will someday give you the best Valentine’s Day you’ll ever have!

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‘Galentine’s Day’ Ideas

It’s come to my attention that the single girls in the world (and girls that just love to celebrate) have created their own holiday that just so happens to fall on February 14th- Galentines Day. And I’m going to give you a few ideas on how to celebrate!

I think the key to making ‘Galentines Day’ successful is to do (almost) everything you would do with your Valentine and do it with your gal pals. You have a few choices here. Enjoy champagne and chocolate covered strawberries. Watch a chick flick. Go to the local market and get some roses. Or you can put on your little black dress with some stilettos and go out dancing with your girl friends! Did I mention both activities require singing and dancing to Beyonce’s ‘Single Ladies’?

 

For option number 1, here’s what you need: 

  • Chocolate. Chocolate. Chocolate.
  • Strawberries
  • Comfy sweats or pjs
  • Enough tacky girl movies to last until everyone passes out (think all the old Mary-Kate and Ashley movies)
  • Bubbly
  • A bouquet of pink roses for the centerpiece of your coffee table

For option number 2, you’ll need:

  • A little black dress
  • Red lipstick
  • Ironic ‘Love’ necklace
  • Something that sparkles
  • Gel heel inserts so you can dance without much pain in your feet
  • A Taylor Swift attitude
  • A pact with your girls that there won’t be any guys that break up the night (unless he’s really, really cute!)

However you choose to spend the day, remember that being single doesn’t mean you’re alone and sometimes it can be the most exciting time in your life.

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