Hello lovelies! I’ve been so busy lately and traveling a lot. Last week, I went to Colonial Williamsburg with someone special (winky face)! It was a long, hot day of walking around and sight seeing. I didn’t even bother to wear any makeup beyond mascara and a little concealer to take the look of death away from my under-eye circles.
We started the day by checking out the little shops and boutiques in downtown Williamsburg. I adore local cheese shops and gourmet grocers. There’s just something so exciting about exploring the food selection of another town. It’s the classic case of the “grass is always greener”. After trying local yummies, we went in a little store called Ocean Palms. To my surprise, it was a Lilly Pulitzer store! I ended up finding a skirt I wanted half off. I can’t wait to do a post on it, you will fall in love!
After this, we went down the Duke of Gloucester street, taking in the pretty little buildings and reading up on historical happenings. We even got ourselves in a few mock stalks for a picture. As I said, it was very hot and we went through water like crazy. To keep cool, we ducked into little colonial shops and explored the period items they had for sale. I found some lavender soap that smelled divine. I had to stop myself from buying it though, bars of soap just make my skin itchy!
For a short break from the heat, we went to some shopping outlets and I found a Ralph Lauren shirt for half off and my beau bought me J Crew shorts! After our shopping, we went back to downtown Williamsburg and had dinner in a really nice restaurant called Shields Tavern. Everything from the food to the waiters were themed around the time of the Revolutionary War.
Our final adventure before going home was a ghost tour of Colonial Williamsburg. Spooks and Legends did our tour and it was really incredible! The tour started at 9pm with a tour guide dressed in colonial clothing. Each location we stopped at had it’s own ghost stories and freaky haunts. It honestly gave me goose bumps at times. The tour lasted an hour or so and I took pictures hoping to see something in one of the windows. No such luck.
By the time we got home we were both exhausted. We had many laughs and cute moments, but I think we were both thrilled to crash and go to sleep. Long days require long rests. I’m still recovering.
Remember those new Under Armor running shoes I talked about? Well, I still haven’t used them much at the gym and they aren’t really broken in yet. However, I like many ladies, have learned to use my running shoes for an unintended purpose: chasing after a guy. I bought these shoes at Dick’s Sporting Goods, not on the eHarmony website, and yet I seem to be metaphorically using them for the wrong thing! Smart one, Liz.
I don’t think I’m the only girl who is misusing her running shoes though. The more I talk to girls from all over the country (and even the world), they all seem to be doing this too. The question is why? Why do girls put themselves through this? I don’t know the answer honestly. I can speculate that maybe it’s because we know that the guys we’re interested in won’t bother to try and chase us down. It could also be because guys know that women will come to them, thus eliminating the notion that they have to put a little effort in too. It’s anyone’s guess though.
The point is that girls are feeling like if they don’t do the “chasing”, then the guys they’re interested in won’t be bothered with them and might even move on to another girl who IS trying to snag him. Curiously enough, relationships where only one party is trying to make it work typically don’t last too long. It has to be a mutual effort. The romance and all that jazz is only worth it when both people are willing to give 100% to it. Otherwise, it’s one person doing all the work and one person enjoying the benefits.
I’m personally vowing not to be a “chaser” anymore. It’s one thing to be a little flirty while illustrating one’s interest in the guy, but it is quite another to be doing all the leg work in getting his attention and admiration. Ladies, I challenge you to make this vow too! We are beautiful, smart women that want men who see our value and know that not pursuing us would be a grave mistake. Simply put, let’s not sell ourselves short.
A girl doesn’t need anyone that doesn’t need her.
One of my best friends posted the funniest thing to my Facebook wall yesterday. I literally think most girls can relate to this struggle that seems never ending:
It’s true isn’t it? The Kate Spade handbag is a favorite of mine but way too expensive. I could eat cookies all day, but then I couldn’t wear skinny jeans anymore. And every boy I ever liked takes forever to text back. I’m sitting here asking myself why life is like that? I think it might be because no matter what, we always want what we can’t have.
I could go on and on about the things I don’t have (or can’t have) that I want, but I think you all immediately understood what I was saying. It painfully resonates in all of us. Yesterday, I went to get coffee at Starbucks with two good friends and in the long line of waiting people was this gorgeous girl who had the expensive things I wanted, could probably eat whatever she wanted and stay skinny, and judging by the huge diamond on her finger, the guy she wanted DID text her back. In my pangs of jealousy, I came to the realization that there is no reason why I can’t have the same things. I started to admire the girl. She went after what she wanted and got it.
I made a little pre-New Year’s Resolution for myself. I’m going to work hard to have the pretty things I can’t afford, sweat more to eat the tasty things I love and still keep my figure, and am going to go for the guys that seem out of reach. There’s no point in living if we can’t live the way we want.