Oh my goodness everyone, it has been a whirlwind few weeks! David and I have been so busy with different things that the days just got away from me. On top of that, this past weekend we had a freak strong storm blow through Dallas and it knocked out our power for 3 days! There were trees snapped in half all over the place, power lines down, fences completely gone, and even a crane fell on an apartment complex and unfortunately someone was killed. With all that said however, I’m so thankful that David and I and our fur kids are safe and sound. Now on to the good stuff!
Socializing and mental health go hand-in-hand I have found! I wanted to share what I’ve been doing in recent months to improve my mind and a few suggestions I have for you to do the same!
getting over my comfort zone
The last few years have felt isolating to me. I moved to a new city, didn’t know anyone, and always felt like I was going to be moving again so why bother. Earlier this spring I told myself “summer is coming and I want to have a summer that is full of laughs with good friends.” So I decided to start making it happen even though it made me all sorts of anxious. I signed up for blogger brunches, started going to networking events and happy hours, and got tickets to local events like the one in the picture above!
This was a particularly fun event! It was at the Stoneleigh Hotel where they hosted a Rose Garden Party! I met tons of people and had a blast! I took one of my friends with me and ended up seeing a lot of people I knew so I got to further connect with them. I normally wouldn’t do this. It’s out of my comfort zone and my anxiety told me there’s no way I could handle it. But I did and it paid off!
How my mental health improved
I felt like a new me! Being around people and sharing in laughs can make such an impact on how you feel emotionally and mentally. Sometimes its really hard for me to go to events that I’ve already signed up for. I think “it would be easier to stay in bed” or “what if it’s awkward?” 9 times out of 10 I end up being so glad I went and so happy when I get home. People are meant to be with people!
3 ways to get social
Finding my “people” wasn’t easy. But the best way I found friends and community is through my hobby: blogging. Start with what you love to do and then go from there. Runners have community. Dog lovers do. Cat lovers certainly do. Whatever it is you enjoy, find your group there!
Join a meet up group! Meetup.com is where one of my friends found her group of gals to hang out with, which she then introduced me to! BOOM. A whole new friend group! Sure, meeting up with a group of people you don’t know can be unnerving but everyone is in the same position as you are.
Establish your local “spot.” Whether its a Starbucks down the street, a dive bar, a restaurant or a gym, find one place where you dig the vibes and start frequenting it. Over time you’ll start to know faces and get to know the people behind them. It’s a great way to slowly overcome social anxiety and be present in your community.