The hardest thingabout a long distance relationship is not being able to share in the big and little moments of everyday life. When you want to go out at night or need someone to help you take the grocery bags into the kitchen, they aren’t there. Learning to deal with the distance is a process that doesn’t happen overnight. Here are the biggest things I’ve learned so far.
Communicate everything. Talking about even the small things builds trust and allows the other person to be apart of your life in little ways
Use Skype on a weekly basis. Seeing a person, even through a camera, makes the relationship seem more “in person” as opposed to just texts and calls
Compliment each other often. Because a lot of long-distance-communication is verbal, you miss out on being able to give nonverbal cues indicating your attraction to the other person.
Send letters. Yeah, old school stuff I know. It honestly, makes a huge difference being able to hold something tangible from the other person.
Know when the next visit is. Having a date on the calendar for the next time you’ll see each other gives you both something to look forward to and is a great reminder that separation doesn’t last forever.
Send pictures throughout the day. Similar to Skyping, it makes them seem more apart of your daily life.
Comment below with your personal stories and tips to share!
Remember those new Under Armor running shoes I talked about? Well, I still haven’t used them muchat the gym and they aren’t really broken in yet. However, I like many ladies, have learned to use my running shoes for an unintended purpose: chasing after a guy. I bought these shoes at Dick’s Sporting Goods, not on the eHarmony website, and yet I seem to be metaphorically using them for the wrong thing!Smart one, Liz.
I don’t think I’m the only girlwho is misusing her running shoes though. The more I talk to girls from all over the country (and even the world), they all seem to be doing this too. The question is why? Why do girls put themselves through this?I don’t know the answer honestly. I can speculate that maybe it’s because we know that the guys we’re interested in won’t bother to try and chase us down. It could also be because guys know that women will come to them, thus eliminating the notion that they have to put a little effort in too. It’s anyone’s guess though.
The point is that girls are feeling like if they don’t do the “chasing”, then the guys they’re interested in won’t be bothered with them and might even move on to another girl who IS trying to snag him. Curiously enough, relationships where only one party is trying to make it work typically don’t last too long. It has to be a mutual effort.The romance and all that jazz is only worth it when both people are willing to give 100% to it. Otherwise, it’s one person doing all the work and one person enjoying the benefits.
I’m personally vowing not to be a “chaser”anymore. It’s one thing to be a little flirty while illustrating one’s interest in the guy, but it is quite another to be doing all the leg work in getting his attention and admiration. Ladies, I challenge you to make this vow too! We are beautiful, smart women that want men who see our value and know that not pursuing us would be a grave mistake. Simply put, let’s not sell ourselves short.
If you’re like me starting out, interviews were kind of a “wing it” event. You didn’t know what to do or how to prepare. I had to learn from experience. I have been the recipient of 7 different internships, selected as an ambassador for World Vision International, the foreman for a local junior jury, received two scholarships to attend a young leaders program in Santa Barbara, and was recently selected to be a crew representative for a boutique in Florida (more on that to come!) Needless to say, I have been through a lot of interviews! I want to share with you real information and tips on how to win big in your next interview.
The first thing I learned was that if you’re interview is over the phone (which many of mine have been) it is crucial that you maintain a positive voice and don’t make comments that could possibly be taken the wrong way. The interviewer can’t see your face and therefore cannot tell how you feel or whether something you say is meant to be taken as humor or not. In other words, don’t try to be funny. Be pleasurable and personable, but don’t try to be funny, because you never are when you have to try.
The next thing I learned is to be prepared for the unexpected.Do you know how many questions I’ve been asked that I did not have a prepared answer for? Too many to count. I’ve been asked things such as “What United Stated economic policy was, in your opinion, the least effective?” My first thought was “Uh, what? Come on, who asks this stuff?” Well, because it was a think tank in Washington, D.C. they will always have questions to throw at you that weren’t expected. If you are interviewing for a position that you feel unsure of, then have someone else pretend to interview you and ask questions you aren’t prepared for.
A third thing I have come to expect is to be asked what my weaknesses are. For heaven’s sake if it’s punctuality don’t say that! I’ve learned that the safest answers are either worrying, perfectionism, or impatience.
Something else I have picked up on in the corporate world is that companies are putting new emphasis on team work and group cohesion. Group activities such as bowling or a cook out are becoming a very important part of building a team-centered atmosphere. If you’re hoping to get a new job, expect this to be part of the company culture and say so in your interview. Employers want to hear that you like working in teams but can also work alone. Both are important.
In your first interview, I do not advisethat you talk salary or benefits unless they bring it up. Most companies will set up a series of interviews with you and the first one is typically where you go through your resume and explain everything in detail (make sure to have your resume with you) and they get to know you as a person. After that, the questions get much more specific. The second or third interview is when you might start talking about salary. Be sure not to make that your very first question.
Here’s my final piece of advice- ask questions! At the end of every interview an employer will ask if you have any questions for them. You better have some! This shows you are interested in their company and not just getting the job. Some of my favorites to ask are:
1. What’s a typical day like in the office?
2. What do you like most about working for the company?
3. Is the company active in the community (i.e. do they support any charities, do volunteer work etc.)?
You want them to think you’re interested in what your life will be like if you worked for them. It also shows that you have actually thought through why you would like to work for the company.
Go forward with all the confidence in the world! You can do this!As the saying goes, “Hold your head high gorgeous, there are people that would kill to see you fall.”
P.S. Wondering what to wear for an interview or even to work? Check out this helpful post!
Yesterday was a perfect day for sporting pastel colors. It was grocery shopping day and to add some life to an otherwise dull event, I decided the only sensible solution was to look cute. In this outfit, it literally makes me glow because it’s so bright with pastel colors and the sun reflecting off of them!
Like I’ve said in previous posts, in my town you can go pretty much anywhere in sweats or jeans and a t-shirt. I still like to dress up a little more because it’s good for my mental health and self-confidence.
For this outfit, I’m wearing a New York & Company pastel purple top, white J Crew shorts, Rampage sandals, gold Aldo ring, and a New York & Company necklace. Everything I found on clearance in the past year. I can’t guarantee that these things are still available so I’ve found a few other items that are comparable and affordable.
My biggest tip though? Wait for everything to be cut down to at least 50% off. I never buy full priced items unless it’s a staple piece that I want to last for a really long time. With tops and jewelry like what I’m wearing, you can afford to be a little more picky with how much you spend because before you know it the trend will be over and you didn’t waste a lot of your money.
I was in your position a few months ago and I know how hard it can be. You see all these famous, successful bloggers (think Rach Parcell’s Pink Peonies blog) and wonder how they got there. Truthfully, I’m not sure. I haven’t figured that out yet. What I do know I’m going to share with you and I hope you’ll share it with others.
The first thing I learned is that consistency is key. Posting routinely will not only improve your SEO Google rankings but it gives your readers an idea of when you will post. I haven’t always been great about this but recently I bought a Lilly Pulitzer daily agenda to help organize myself (blog to come on this).
The second thing I learned is that it’s important to get involved with other bloggers. Commenting, liking, collaborating (which I love doing), and exchanging ideas is all part of gaining a following and increasing your likability. Eventually, it isn’t just fellow bloggers following you, it’s people without blogs who love you enough to sign up for email alerts every time you post a blog.
The third tip I have for you is to connect your Instagram with your blog. This is pretty simple because Instagram already has a widget set up in WordPress for you to use. All you need to do is activate it. You can use photos from every post and put them on Instagram to drive people to your blog. Be sure to include the link to your blog in your bio!
Finally, learn to use the “attachment details” every time you insert a photo. Particularly learn alt text. Essentially what this means is tagging your image for Google to index. For example, in my last post I had a photo of my Ann Taylor dress, the alt text I put in the image was “ann_taylor_dress.” Do you see what I mean here?
If there are any questions you all have for me leave a comment and I’ll be happy to answer them! Hopefully, I’ve helped you somewhat already. Don’t get discouraged that you don’t have thousands of followers and companies aren’t giving you free products yet. That takes a long time. Just be consistent and write about what you love.