Forget Fashion Blogging- Why I’m Transitioning to Mental Health Blogging Only

As you may have noticed lately, I’ve been talking a lot more about mental health and less about fashion. When I started Witty N Pretty way back in 2014, I had a completely different vision for it than what I have now, and as any good brand would do, I decided to reevaluate what it is I wanted my blog to be about. I ended up deciding that fashion wasn’t my thing any more and mental health was a topic that I wanted to focus on. Here’s why.

Mental Health Isn’t Talked About Enough

100 years ago, people that were chronically depressed were put in asylums or other institutions. No one understood the disease, or wanted to. It’s upsetting for me to think that if I had been born in a different era, I could have been one of those people locked away for no good reason.

In recent years, mental health has been talked about more and more… but we still have a long way to go! I want to dedicate my blog to something that can really make a difference. Spreading awareness, helping those who are trying to cope with anxiety or depression, and just sharing my experience are the topics I’m going to be focusing on.

I Can’t Write About Something I Don’t Love

Fashion was always something I was interested in, but I never loved it. I never had a passion for it (or a big budget to match!) I wanted so badly to be a successful blogger that got all of the brand deals, had a big following, and lived a glamorous lifestyle. Rachel Parcell was always my inspiration and what kept me dreaming big. But we all don’t follow the same path in life. I don’t love fashion like she does and that’s ok.

After years of trying to “make it” as a style blogger, I finally felt God’s gentle hand guiding me elsewhere. Ok, it was more like a big push and Him being like “can you listen for 5 seconds?! Do this instead!” So here I am, trying to listen and write about the what I love, which is mental health.

We All Need Someone Who “Gets It”

There’s nothing better than finding someone who totally understands what you’re going through and can commiserate. Sometimes we just need someone to talk to, and I want to be that person for other anxiety and depression sufferers.

I remember I was at a brunch with a bunch of other bloggers in the Dallas area. We all went around the table to introduce ourselves and one of the girls said she blogged about style and mental health because she deals with depression and anxiety. I about shot out of my seat I was so excited to know that at table filled with women who looked like they had it all together, there was at least one person who would understand me. Follow her Instagram here!

So with Witty N Pretty, I really hope this blog becomes a resources for other people that suffer from mental health problems. I am by no means a doctor and certainly can’t diagnose you, but I hope I can at least be someone others can talk to so they don’t feel alone.

5 Natural Elements that Help with Depression

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Hey everyone! Here lately I’ve found myself jumping on the vitamin and supplement train in an effort to help my body get the nutrients it needs that I don’t readily feed it (read: I don’t eat enough veggies). But in addition to lacking vitamin C, fiber, and a million other things, my brain lacks the right balance of chemicals as well. Brain chemistry is incredibly complex and doctors still aren’t sure what exactly causes depression because it can vary person to person. How’s that for hard to treat?!

I did some research on natural elements that can help with depression. They definitely don’t cure it and shouldn’t be used in place of seeing an actual doctor, but they’re known to help!

St John’s Wort

St. John’s Wort has been prescribed for mental health conditions for centuries. It’s a plant that’s sold as a dietary supplement to help with depression specifically. However, if you’re taking other medication, it can counteract it, so it’s best to talk with a doctor before taking the supplement.

Ginseng

There are 11 different types of Ginseng, which is a type of plant that’s slow growing and has fleshy roots. It’s believed to increase energy and relieve stress. They come in capsule form, teas, and in other supplement forms. I personally love drinking tea with Ginseng in it!

Zinc

Zinc is a mineral that our body doesn’t need much of but a lack of it can really throw things off balance. We can get zinc in capsule form but its also found in poultry, red meat, and fish. It’s shown in studies to help people with depression but it’s also used for many other things! It’s all around a great mineral to take.

Lavender

Not only is lavender great for your skin, it’s also helpful when it comes to relieving anxiety. For anyone that’s suffered from anxiety, it often leads to depression as well. For me, when I take care of my anxiety, my depression symptoms often lessen. Although, it is important to note that lavender isn’t specifically proven to help with depression.

Omega-3

Do you guys remember that scene in A Cinderella Story where Heather Locklear is complaining about getting her Omega-3’s? Turns out we all should be worried about getting more of them. They’re still being studied, but people that food with Omega-3s are less likely to be depressed. Pass the salmon, please.

Moral of the story: Get your vitamins in check and talk to your doctor about what you should be taking! I’m not a doctor, but I know what works for me and I love sharing ideas on how I have improved my health naturally. I still take medication for depression and anxiety, but I love the boost some vitamins give me!

 

What to Expect for Mental Health in January

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Hey everyone! Now that the holidays are behind us, I imagine we’re all trying to refocus our thoughts on our goals for this year and getting back on track with our schedules. I honestly hate stepping outside of my routine as it confuses me not only mentally but physically. My whole body questions my daily life choices during the holidays and it sucks!

So with all that said, I wanted to talk about what our mental health might look like this month! It’s totally different for everyone but I think we all have some sort of common theme in what we experience seasonally! I created this little infographic (because who doesn’t love these?) in hopes that you might be able to commiserate with me! january mental health infographic

Does any of this sound like you? I personally identify with Seasonal Affective Disorder and Post-Holiday Blues. The weeks after Christmas just beat me down mentally and physcially. I see a counselor every month to help me cope and develop action plans on how I can pick myself up when I’m feeling down. Right now, I’m loving cooking new recipes for David and I! It gets me excited about something and also gives me something to do.

Create Your Own Action Plan

The worst thing you can do when you’re experiencing mental health problems is to do nothing. Create an action plan for how you’ll cope and what YOU need to do to keep going. I’ll be sharing more on this in the coming weeks, but for now here are some things to get you thinking:

  •  What are my needs right now?
  •  How am I feeling?
  •  Can I identify my emotions and their causes?
  •  Do I know what is causing my mental health problem?
  •  How do I want to feel?

 

Speaking New Year’s Resolutions into Existence

It’s that time of the year again… the time we tell ourselves we’ll change our eating habits, make more time for hobbies, family, ourselves etc., and try to be more positive. It lasts all of maybe a month and then we’re back to our old ways. I’m so guilty of this and I’m tired of it! So this year, I’ve decided that I’m changing my approach! I’m speaking my resolutions and intentions into existence. Sounds crazy? Keep reading and this may change your mind!

The Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction is the belief that if you speak positivity into the world, you will attract positive things. The same goes for negative words attracting negative things. It makes sense. If you think and speak positively, good things tend to happen. Now that’s not to say nothing bad will ever happen, but it improves the way you handle it and can even change the outcome.

From my own experience, when I speak negatively, nothing good really ever comes from that. I don’t know how many times my mom has told me to stop being negative about things and try to be positive. I’m not sure if its “energy,” I tend to think its God, but when I’m positive my mood lifts and happiness and peace comes right after that. I remember a Bible verse growing up that said to think and dwell on whatever is true, noble, lovely, and admirable. I don’t think anything bad has ever come from that.

In short: Speak positively and you will attract positive things.

How Do We Speak Positively?

It seems so simple. Say positive things and that’s it. But when you typically think and speak negatively, it can be really hard to change that mindset. I’ve tried so many times and unfortunately just returned to my old ways of thinking. So to even start the process of speaking positively, I’m saying out loud that I will speak positively! That’s really hard for me to even say. It’s so contrary to my nature. But simply saying that we will be uplifting when we speak conditions a small part of our minds to be aware of anything else that comes out of our mouths. Eventually, saying good things will become second nature.

How Do We Speak our Resolutions into Existence?

Well, this is difficult to answer because you can say that they will happen and you will stick to them, but at the same time you must make a physical effort. I think that daily reminders to yourself that you’re working toward your resolution and still intend to keep it can be a big help. A simple mantra to repeat to yourself such as “I will speak positively” or “I will eat healthy today” can help remind yourself of your intentions and speak them into existence. You cannot take words back, and sometimes that’s for the better!

 Good luck with your resolutions! Sticking with them is going to be hard but I’ve already said I’m going to stick with it so my words have intention and it’s too late! No turning back now!

 

 

Mental Health During the Holidays

mental health during the holidaysHi everyone! I’ve been pretty busy these last three weeks prepping for Christmas, which is what sparked the need for this blog! This time of the year is filled with all sorts of emotions. Some are happy, some are sad. However, I really wanted to highlight how important it is to recognize and take care of our mental health during the holiday season. It can take a real beating! Here are a few of my personal tips on managing mental health this time of the year!

Acknowledge Your Feelings

When I was a kid, Christmas was so magical and full of joy and excitement! But as an adult, its a bag of mixed emotions for me and many others. This year will be hard for David and I due to the passing of his mom over the summer. I’m finally acknowledging that the joy we normally have each year will be a little duller this time around. I’ve been running around like crazy trying to make it fantastic for him and his family, but as he pointed out to me, I can’t fill a void that isn’t my place to fill. Feeling sad this year is ok.

Take Time to Do for Yourself

Now that I’m married and have my own home to run, I can totally see how my mom would get burnt out on Christmas! It’s exhausting! Women (and sometimes men) are expected to keep the house clean, do all the cookie baking, host guests, decorate, buy gifts, wrap said gifts, and cook up a delicious meal for Christmas dinner. My mom did all this and more and I don’t know how she did it! I’m tired just doing a quarter of these things.

Taking time out for yourself and doing what you want to do to make yourself happy is great for your mental well-being! For me, it’s sitting down with a glass of red wine, a bit of cheese (or a lot), and watching a good Christmas movie. That’s my jam! And mom, because I know you’re reading this- take a break today!!

Have an Action Plan for Toxic People

Toxic people. We all have them in our lives and they usually show up around Christmas. If you know you’ll end up interacting with them around Christmas, have a plan on how you’ll deal with them. For me, there’s certain people that can make me feel bad about myself. My action plan is to simply keep interactions to a surface level so I can minimize the likelihood of finding myself depressed after seeing them.

There ya go! Those are my big 3 tips on mental health during the holiday season! Please comment with your own tips and reach out if you ever just need someone to talk to!