Being a blogger starting out is the worst. It’s like taking 3 steps forward and 2 steps backward constantly. I mean it when I say the struggle is real. Fashion blogging can be lots of fun at times. When I get the perfect shot of my outfit or a brand wants to send free product to me, it’s like Christmas day! I honestly love doing it and wouldn’t dream of giving it up. However, there are days when style blogging gets me down in the dumps and just puts me in a bad mood. Here are 4 of the worst things you can do to yourself as a blogger.
Play the Comparison Game
Oh. My. Goodness. This is the worst and I do it all the time. I’ll start out having a good day and pop over to one of my favorite blogs and think to myself “wow, why can’t I be like her?” BOOM. My whole day was just ruined. I always end up trying to convince myself that if I had been “born into money” or if I had “better luck” I’d be just as successful as the blogger I’m comparing myself to. As any blogger knows though, it’s a lot of work no matter how much money or luck you have.
Doubt Your Own Beauty
Similar to the point above, being a style blogger involves pretty pictures and makeup that looks just right. I keep my face and hair pretty natural. I don’t do fake eyelashes or hair and I definitely don’t edit my photos to look thinner. However, the camera is so deceiving to the naked eye. One of my favorite bloggers has been honest about her false eyelashes and hair but every time I see her gorgeous photos, I start feeling bad about myself and how I look! That’s a terrible thing to do myself and I know I’m not the only one who does it!
Place Your Value in How Many Followers You Have
Growing your following is so important to your success as a blogger. If you’ve ever experienced slow growth though, then you know how frustrating it can be. When I go to check how many Instagram followers I have, I’m hoping to have gained some and not lost any. Unfortunately, often enough I’ll have lost 15 or so overnight. My heart sinks a little and so does my self-worth. Placing your value in how many people follow you on Instagram is detrimental to your mental health and it’s sadly something I find myself doing all the time.
Wonder What the Point Is
During the regular work week, I have my 9-5 job that keeps me busy 40 hours a week. My 2nd part-time job is my fashion blog, Witty n Pretty, which keeps me busy pretty much every evening and weekend. Needless to say, I’m pretty booked up all the time. When I find myself running around like crazy trying to get pictures taken, a blog post written, and social media posts posted, then I want something to show for it. That can be in the form of traffic, social shares, or something else. Often enough, I find that I don’t have much to show for my efforts and I begin to wonder “is this worth my time?” Obviously, it is if I’m writing this blog post! But believe me, I have those dramatic moments when I question everything.
Please, please leave me a comment if you’ve ever experienced any of these thoughts! I find that it’s so much better to be honest with ourselves and others and say “yeah, sometimes this really sucks!” It’s nice to know you aren’t alone in your blogging journey!